St. Mary’s Friday Night Fish Party St. Mary Of the Isle, In Long Beach, New York, is my parish. On Friday night parishioners (mostly the Hispanics) come to the church for the Stations Of the Cross at 7:30. Starting at 6:30, we members of the St. Vincent de Paul Society have a fish supper ready for them. Last night there were two large containers of seafood. One was Manhattan clam chowder. The other was minestrone.
This afternoon I finally got up the spunk to get a passport application from the Long Beach Post Office. On Tuesday night, Frank, a regular at the St. Mary of the Isle men’s bible study meetings, asked me if I intended to go on an upcoming trip to Ireland. I explained to him that I don’t have a passport. Today I made the big move to get the application. Once I’ve filled it out, I shall have to Report to the post office with all the requisite paperwork, have a few pictures taken, and I shall be set. I may or may not end up going specifically to Ireland, but at least I shall be ready for whatever comes up.
That was the highlight of my week. Lately things have been happening in quite an ordinary, predictable manner for me. Life for me typically involves listening to 1960’s music by bands like the Zombies, and watching old T.V. shows like ‘Nanny and the Professor’. I really should start widening my horizons quite a bit.
I’ve decided to try the Three Things Challenge. Here is the link for it, using the words report, nanny, zombies.
My parents both died in late 2013 and I took over my father’s car, a then~perfect 2001 Saturn. It lasted until June of last year, when it fell apart completely on me. I often think that Maybe it’s not quite the best Decision I’ve ever made, but now I walk absolutely constantly, to anyplace that’s within walking distance. That includes both St. Mary of the Isle, where I attend Mass regularly, and the local soup kitchen, where I work. Since I can’t walk everywhere, I now use Lyft for trips to places that are farther away than my feet can handle.
So far, my experiences with Lyft have been quite nice, with only one slight problem. Last Wednesday night, during a snowstorm I wanted a ride to my Knights of Columbus council. I got a driver who was an exceptionally talkative young black guy. He said he was from Brooklyn (his accent was more like Jamaica in the Caribbean), and didn’t know Long Beach well. I understood, but still wasn’t so crazy about the fact that he drove into oncoming traffic on Long Beach Road. I was forced to Chide him a little.
On the Bright side, I’ve always been able to count upon quite a Smooth Ride. I can easily overlook that one minor Trial. Considering that I first got a license in my late teens, life without a car is quite a new and confusing experience, but I consider it Just one more of many I’ve been through over the years. Maybe the Tide will turn in the Wormhole that is my life, and I’ll get another car. Until then, I can just consider my circumstances to be a metaphorical Tithe I can quite easily and happily pay.
Hi, it’s been quite a while, for some strange reason, since I last wrote a post for The Sunday Whirl . Believe it or not, the preceding is a true story.
Saturday evening, after 5:00 p.m. Mass at St. Mary of the Isle in Long Beach, New York, was Father Brian Patrick Barr’s big party for the twenty fifth anniversary of his ordination to the priesthood in the Diocese of Rockville Centre. Here is just one of the highlights of the momentous occasion.
In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Memory on the Menu.”Compared to recent memories, I’ve always very much preferred the long ago kind. In an episode of “The Odd Couple”, Oscar Madison reminds Felix Unger of Dorothy Parker’s claim to have hated writing but loved having written. That’s the way my understanding of life is. I see time as being divided into three parts. The future is pure theory. There is, to a certain extent, no point in bothering to think about it. The present is one big responsibility. Even the good things have their share of annoyances. The past, though, from this point of view, is the nicest. Each of us is able to see it, as he can see the present, but he’s not obligated to deal with the hard parts. The recent past still has entirely too many memories of all its annoyances. Life during my school days, or during the times when I was working at some long-lost job, was no more interesting then than my current life is. What makes it so interesting for me to reflect upon those previous times is the very fact that I can’t possibly have them back. I can’t possibly control my past. What is done cannot possibly be undone. Anything left undone cannot possibly be done. I can, however, control it in my imagination. There’s no point in bothering to take such an approach to the immediate past, but it works well with much earlier time frames. There’s quite a significant reason for my having used a picture of a Good Humor ice cream truck instead of a currently commonplace vehicle. Last night I attended the first night of the annual fair at St. Mary of the Isle Church in Long Beach, New York. That truck was there. For me, Good Humor is a perfect example of the best of nostalgia. It was prominent long ago and has been hardly ever seen during current and recent times. That’s the kind of memory that has always truly piqued my interest.
Although I’ve never been able to stand Jane Fonda, or trite inarticulate cliches either, the concept of “no pain no gain” has quite a lot of merit to it. Anyone who’s ever tried to do something exceptionally well knows quite well, after only a very short time, that nothing comes easily. Whether it’s getting a job, playing a musical instrument, exercise or anything else of any significance whatsoever, all important things require strenuous effort. At the church I attend, St. Mary of the Isle in Long Beach, Father Brian Barr recently told us about the time his nephew graduated from junior high school. His other nephew, the graduate’s brother, asked him what the word “commencement” meant. Father Barr told him that it referred to finishing something. The nephew who was on the verge of finishing school told him that it really was about beginning something. That’s what all of life in general has always been about. Nothing can be begun without something else’s being given up. Life is a series of beginnings and endings. All of life is a series of obligations and opportunities, and to try to avoid that combination would be a false dichotomy.
If my current mood could be depicted in a painting, as a representation of something tangible, it would perhaps be a very old, worn-out tree on an exceptionally hot day. Right now I’m in at least a reasonably decent mood. I’m so calm and happy, enjoying the temporary peace and quiet. My only problem is that I’m entirely too hot and exhausted from my having recently taken too long of a walk from here to St. Mary of the Isle Church, and then the Coffee Nut Cafe, around a half mile away. It’s a very annoying trip when the weather is either too hot or too cold. Maybe I could be represented by the kind of a tree that’s seen a lot of changes in the weather and circumstances in general and although it’s still doing quite well, has been knocked around a bit by its environment and other factors. It’s a sunny day in the painting. The surroundings are impressive. There’s the slightest hint, though, of exhaustion. The tree that is my life can take the occasional dose of sweltering heat. It simply needs a bit of replenishing every once in a while. There’s no trouble with the roots, leaves or fruit.
Every morning for the past few months, I’ve been going to Mass at St. Mary of the Isle Church in Long Beach. From Monday through Friday I go to 9:00 a.m. Mass. On Sunday I usually go to 11:00 a.m. Mass. After that I absolutely have to go to the Coffee Nut Cafe, right down the street from the church. On Saturdays, the only day I don’t have any other reason to be in the neighborhood, I make sure I go there anyway. Mary Anne and Steve have always been in the habit of going to Gentle Brew, slightly farther down Park Avenue, on the opposite side of the street. At Gentle Brew they have waffles, a favorite of Steve’s. The Coffee Nut Cafe has a wide assortment of tea, pastries, ice cream and other things, though so far I haven’t gotten anything there except coffee. They have coffees from places ranging from Italy and Ireland to Costa Rica and Peru. I often drink the Irish Alien, in honor of my ethnic background, and Queens Madness, in honor of my home borough. It’s always struck me as such an exceptionally nice quiet little place. Like the bar on “Cheers”, they kind of seem, as far as I can tell, to have sort of a mini subculture going on where the regulars have all gotten to know each other quite well by now. I haven’t yet reached the point where I’ve gotten that familiar with them. I never spend a significant length of time there, beyond a few minutes each day. Because of my having gone there so frequently and so regularly, though, everyone recognizes me, including a girl who’s a friend of Bridget’s. By going there on such a regular basis, I get to know a few people in Long Beach and to become a familiar face around here. Besides that I also get lots of excercise, because lately I walk everyplace. Most importantly, though, I get to wallow in a fairly wide variety of different kinds of coffee.
No one’s life is entirely perfect. Each of us has his share of things and circumstances he simply can’t possibly be expected to handle very well. That happens to me occasionally too. When I have that kind of trouble one of the very first things I try to do to alleviate the problem is to try to have as much peace and quiet as possible. Unwelcome noise, unwelcome sound in general, has always struck me as quite difficult to take. Especially now, in the era of cell phones, we’re incessantly bombarded with it. Of course things most certainly don’t have always to be entirely silent. I enjoy good music too. Everyone knows, by now, of my notorious interest in the songs of the 1960’s, but I spend a lot of time listening to quite a wide variety of music from all eras and genres and it always helps to alleviate any troubles I may be experiencing. I don’t like any current or recent pop music though. I even play the guitar too. The reason noise bothers me so much is because it’s such an unwelcome intrusion into the environment. With me it all comes down to a question of control. Another way I can alleviate my blue moments is by way of watching a really good television show or movie. Since I generally tend not to enjoy any recent shows or movies either, yet again I usually go to those of previous eras. I have quite a large collection of records and tapes, CD’s and DVD’s to keep me occupied. Besides the fact that these provide me with a perfect means of lifting my spirits, they can also be quite an endless supply of conversation pieces. I also enjoy solitude. Other people’s company can be very interesting and beneficial but when I’m having a very hard time I frequently enjoy being left alone. It helps, once in a while, not to have to deal with all the entirely ordinary predictable circumstances that transpire when others are around. Lately because of problems with my car insurance, I walk back and forth each morning to 9:00 a.m. Mass at St. Mary of the Isle Parish. Although it’s quite frustrating to be without transportation, the walk each day, with all its attendant peace and quiet, does me quite a lot of good. Another way I can alleviate my troubles is by reading. As I’ve said before I have such exceptionally discerning tastes in reading material and tend to be a bit of a literary snob. I read things ranging from Sir Thomas Malory’s “Le Morte D’Arthur” to Sigrid Undset’s “Kristin Lavransdatter”. My taste in literature, besides being quite a nice antidote for the blues, can also lead to some especially interesting conversations every once in a while. Food and drink, including coffee and tea, can do wonders for putting up a fight against life’s troubles. Over the course of the past few months I’ve gotten into the habit, especially when I’m alone, of having a cup of hot tea with a fluffernutter. Everyone knows how good marshmallow Fluff is. I’ve also gotten into the equally predictable habit of going to the Coffee Nut Cafe, on Park Avenue, immediately after Mass six days a week, and on Saturdays too, to have a hot flavored espresso or cappuccino. By now I’ve become quite a familiar character there and all the ladies who work there have gotten used to seeing me each day. They have a variety of international coffees available. Unfortunately the only foreign country I’ve been to is Canada and they have nothing Canadian. They have a flavor named Queens Madness, though, and I’ve most certainly been to Queens. Life is frequently overwhelmingly tough but these kinds of things can do each of us a lot of good in the never ending battle to avoid being discouraged.